I'm Just Not That Into You

Tonight I saw the movie "He's Just Not That Into You". I read the book when it first came out, and was extremely entertained. Not in the typical "self help" goal-of-the-book kind of way, but in the same way I was entertained reading the "Why Me" section of Teen Magazine when I was 12.

ICK! This is really the only word that comes to mind when asked my opinion about the movie. I was literally pissed off most of the time at how utterly PATHETIC these girls are. The worst part is that I know so many AMAZING girls that act/think the same way.

The "main" character, for example, spends the entire movie trying to find a boyfriend. Whether or not she even likes him doesn't seem to matter, all she cares about is finding a guy. She resorts to obsessive, stalker like behavior, wonders why she's single and gets her feelings hurts when someone actually tells it to her straight. Seriously?

The only applaud able character is the woman who divorces her cheating husband. Granted she still nicely folds and organizes his clothes rather than throw them out on the sidewalk (which is what I would have done).

I just don't understand why women today base their entire sense of self worth on whether or not a man is interested in them. I have so many great friends who do this and it frustrates me to no end. They don't care who they are dating, they don't even like the guy most of the time, and move from one guy to the next, because they always HAVE TO HAVE A GUY. It's disgusting.

And what's with girls and getting married? It's like they sit around sulking that they aren't married, because they just know they'll be happy once some schmuck puts a ring on her finger. Is a big white dress and a diamond magically going to boost their self esteem, make their career, education, and family goals fall right into place? Again, Seriously?

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for dating. It's obviously how you eventually meet and marry someone. But men, please note: Crazy, Needy, Slutty, Obnoxious behavior is not displayed by every woman. But for those ladies who act this way, stop, please. It gives all of us a bad reputation.

I have dated a lot, I have been single and in a couple. I have learned that a key principle often overlooked in relationships is that you have to be happy single (all by yourself) before you can be happy with someone else. How can you make someone happy if you're miserable? I like having boyfriends, but I don't NEED one. I can change a tire, the light bulb, and even open the mayonnaise jar all by myself. I happen to love that about me. I also don't want to get married. But it's because I haven't yet found anyone I'd actually like being married to.

I can't really say more on the topic other than this. Bottom line: Girls stop being desperate, they're making movies about you.